Is the child hungry? tired? bored? unwell?
Remember they are very self-focused; they rarely throw tantrums when they are happy feeding the ducks or being pushed on a swing. But as soon as we try to leave the park, the tantrum is unleashed!
Their patience is limited, their attention span short, and their legs are little. Be reasonable about your expectations while out shopping, visiting friends, or sitting in waiting rooms.
Humour them: "Look! There goes a purple crocodile!!"; "Shh I can hear a fairy!" Sometimes these work, so it's worth a try.
Distraction: "Come on, we'll go and blow some bubbles." or begin to sing a silly song, pull a funny face, make a strange sound.
Cuddles: Do they just need to be held? A hug offered might shorten the tantrum.
Ignore: Can you ignore it? Who is it really bothering? Perhaps they just need a decent scream and stamp to relieve some energy and anger.
Consistency: Don't be inconsistent and give in. They will soon learn that they can get you to change your mind if the tantrum works, so it's worth their while to continue with tantrums to see if you give in first.
Catch them when they're good: make a fuss of them with praise and encouragement, especially when you can anticipate a tantrum: "Wow, you're doing so well learning to share your toys. We're so proud of you!" (Three year olds respond quite well to this sometimes!)
The more you can learn to anticipate tantrums, the more you may be able to avoid them.
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